LIFE BALANCE # HAPPY LIFE

BALANCE IS THE KEY OF HAPPY LIFE

Relationships are important to us. We need to maintain balance between personal and professional life. It is a part of our life. How can we maintain balance between work and personal life? As long as we think, so many questions come out from our minds.

This is a most important topic in these days Because In these days how many people becoming sucidal. How many times in-newspaper ,tv and social media we see these type of news. Your job should serve you both financially and emotionally.

Work might be demanding sometime. It should never become a priority over your wellbeing. You need time and energy for your hobbies and interests, for your family and loved ones.

Here are few ways ….

• Be healthy

Your health is so important. You can’t just ignore because you are working. Your health first and foremost will make you a better employee and person.

If your health is good, You will miss less work, and when you are there, you will be happier and more productive. You should be strong both physically and mentally.

This is possible by daily exercise and meditation and healthy diet.

• love your work

This is most important part because u spend most of the time in your office with work. Think about it, If you hate what you do, you aren’t going to be happy.

You don’t need to love every aspect of your job, but it needs to be little bit exciting. Choose a job that you’re so passionate about.

• Take a Break

Take a break time to time. Break allow us to recover from stress, generated by the daily working in the office environment and break also gives us space for other thoughts and ideas.

Taking a Break means ,shutting work completely off for a while. A break could be a few minutes walk around the office canteen and garden without looking at your phone, or a break could be whole week trip with friend ,family or alone. It is important to get physically and mentally recharge.

• Be a hero

Be a hero but do not try to become a super hero. Try to say no if you don’t have time.

If you don’t have time for your own work then why are you promising to work for others. You can kindly say no to others. I’ m sure they will understand you easily.

Set the priority

We all have busy lives but we should set our priority. According to importance. Prioritise your work.

The work that is more important must be done first. Some less important work, we can left undone or postpone for tomorrow.

You’ll never get time until you don’t understand the importance of that work.

• Make time for yourself.

I know, your job is important but it should not be your entire life. You should get some time for yourself and your loved ones rather than making excuses.

Just because work keeps you busy doesn’t mean that you can neglect yourself and personal relationships. Always remember,

no matter how important you think your job is and no one can handle it without you that’s not the truth. Everyone is replaceable at work and no one will miss you tomorrow if you left the job.

Be happy

What is happiness? We have already read so many articles about happiness. And in my previous posts I talked about happiness but this is a very big topic we can’t cover it in a few posts.

Happiness do exists in present moments. It’s not related to future because there is no future. Of course present again will come when we will reach in the future. It will repeat again and again. We can’t catch future that’s why we can’t say that I will be happy when I’ll get which I want most. This indicates that happiness comes when you get what makes you happy.

Most of us think that we will be happy in future when we will get what we want But Do you think that would be right. I don’t think so…..

Be careful, about your definition of happiness, because it’s all depend on it. Materialistic happiness will take you to a place of sadness because it is momentary. When we feel sad, the one common thing is that it’s impossible to go from sad to happy instantly.

When we feel sad, we are more likely to want to withdraw and not do anything. We tend to disengage from everything that is going on around us.

first thing you need to do is identify what activities that you do or would like to do that brings you joy and make you feel happy.

The only way we can start to feel happy again is to take action and start doing things again. You have to try if you’ll not try, nothing is gonna change.

We can’t avoid the feelings of unhappiness developed by hurt, disappointment . However, we can deal with them in constructive ways that will help avoid excessive suffering.

It is so important to know what happiness means to you because when you know this, you will have meaning and purpose in your life. This is what brings to your life the experience of happiness and the feeling of joy.

Do you capture happy moments?

Hi guys, This is my another blog post. It clicked in my mind when I was taking a picture of awesome hill view in my recent holiday trip. This was not the first time I was taking pictures, I always keep doing this.

Sometime I thought why I m taking so many pictures, enjoy the present moment but in next moment I forget my previous promise and again I started taking pictures because I also knew that this is the moment which I want to experience so many times not only single time.

A single photograph tell us a whole story about that time or that moment. Our mind might be forget that moment but photographs remind us everything whenever we see those pictures.You would be surprised how good you will feel when you see the album of your pictures after many years.

Capture the moment doesn’t mean it can only capture by camera, it also can capture by our mind. If you feel that moment more than five minutes ,I m damn sure you’ll never forget that image or your that time feeling.

I remember my childhood , I used to visit my mama’s home where all cousins gathered on the occasion of summer vacation. We all spend our entire summer vacation together. That was the best time for everyone.

That time we didn’t have cameras usually.only photographers used to take pictures. But we all have memories, images. Whenever we want to remember those moments, we remember them easily, because we all spent a quality time and had felt it deeply. We can’t forget that pictures. They have been stored in our memory.

Photographs capture and stored life’s beautiful memories so that we can re-live them as the years go by. So take lots of pictures and record the best time of your life. I have so many photographs that is not just photographs they are my golden memories which I want to live again…again..again..and again. Collect pictures that have made you smile.

Be yourself……..

Have you ever had a really boring and depressing conversation with someone? Did anyone ever told you to change yourself? Because they think you are too shy, you are too frank………and your dressing style are too different. And did anyone ever suggest you, how to talk, how to walk, which type of clothes you should wear. I think everyone has these type of short stories when they had faced these type of questions.I don’t think so this should be happen. Everyone is different. Everyone has own unique qualities. Why should I become one of them.

Everything start with courage. Try to be yourself . Being yourself means remove all the characters and changes influenced by others which we placed on ourself. It is who we naturally are without the fake mask to impress others.

It is important to love and accept ourselves for where we are at the moment. We should not suppress our true nature in order to please others.

If you watch a small child , you will notice just how free they are and how little they care about what other people think of them. They are happy in that moment.

If you really want to get in touch with your inner child, try to be yourself, feel free to do anything, Play, have fun, enjoy the moment. We only live once.

But It is a big challenge because We care so much about being accepted by others. It can be happen by taking tiny steps.it can be happen with courage to be different. Than you will realise that who We naturally are without influence by others is also perfectly fine.

We should have known that our unique qualities, talents, are given to us by god for some reasons and certain purpose. we should not sacrifice for who we not are truly.

Will it be easy to be yourself? Things will be difficult initially but continuous trying will make things easy. Eveything starts with courage to take stand and keep trying.

Nothing will change if you not try.

“Do not let someone else change who you are , you are perfect just the way you are”

Problem v/s opportunity

Whenever we face problems in our life, What is our first reaction? Most of us, Immediately start complaining.

  • Why did this happen to me?

  • What am I going to do now?

  • I had plans, but now everything is ruined.

This is our first response after we face problems. As we all know, We are human being so this kind of response is natural. We usually react that way.

After initial response, when we get some time to rethink the situation than we realise that we don’t only have problem, we also have a choice to make. It’s a new opportunity which has came in the form of problem.

When we’ll deeply analyse the problem, we’ll see, on the side of problem always a new opportunity is there.

A problem may point out an improvement. We can improve certain areas of our life. Until we have not face problems, we never think that way, we can also learn new things in our life.

I want to tell you a short past incident so that you can easily understand what I m trying to say. This is a story of my friend’s father who used to work in a private bank.

My friend’s father who had became very disappointed and stressed when he heard about shut down of all paper work. And also heard about a new machine (computer) . They said now all work will be done in a new machine instead of paper work.

My friend told me everything about what happened after that news disclosed , about changes in father’s behaviour , about his fear.

That was his first initial response but after 2-3 days he regained his strength and he started thinking about what should he do. Should he Just sit with fear and think about why is this happen to him? Or start a new chapter of his life with learning new things. He started thinking in that way.

Within fifteen days he had went back to work with lot of confidence and you won’t believe that now he take all the advantage of technology and also active on all social network sites.

Now, let’s talk about our life. Have you ever had a experience where a negative situation turned into something positive situation?

Probably you were lost your job or had breakup with someone after that you landed a better position than before which you could not imagine before. Or one day you found out that you have some health problem and you went to a hospital and doctor found that you are perfectly fine, it’s just a seasonal fever. But after that situation you started exercising and also started to take healthy diet.

If we deeply analyse the problems, difficulties which we have faced, I’m sure, We’ll also find the benefits and experience from them. Positivities are always there if we look for them.

I’m not telling you that when problem comes to you, you deny your emotions or refuse to face reality. What I m saying is don’t immediately judge your situation. sometime you won’t be able to instantly spot the benefits that will come from being in situation but it does exist.

We can see our problems as negative and become depressed about them. I’m sure this approach will only make things worse. If we pick the other approach, we can see the opportunity in our problems or we can learn a lesson from our problems.

Believe it or not ,our problems are there to serve us ,not to depress us.

“Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.”

“A problem is a chance for you to do your best.”

Why…….we need to keep growing?

Life rule………….

Keep growing

This is a primary principal of successful living, we are happiest when we are growing and feeling that we are contributing in some way in our life. No one is perfect. We are all works in progress.

The most important thing is to keep learning, growing, and evolving every day. stay curious ,keep learning and keep growing and always strive to be more interested than interesting.

The power of learning is one of the most powerful force in life .

Do your best to learn from our experiences, books, videos, movies ,seminars and any other medium. Growth is a process. You gain,you lose,you cry,you learn,you try,you fail,But you keep trying.

Every day is a golden opportunity to become a better and more confident person.

BE AWARE ABOUT WHAT YOU CHOOSE

Everyday is a new day. Don’t fill your soul by anger, revenge, hatred, jealous, arrogance or any other type of negative energy. Be careful about what you take every day. You will become what you take.

Always Choose positive over negative. I believe that negative thoughts attract negative thoughts like positive thoughts attract positive thoughts. Try to choose positive thoughts such as courage, happiness, hard work, gratitude, love and kindness.

It doesn’t mean that we must all live with the positive thoughts every moment of every day. It would be impossible because we are all human being after all. But we should try our best everyday to choose positive thoughts over negative thoughts.

Why……we need to Maintain balance between personal and professional life.

How to balance work and personal life? We all want to be perfect professionally at our work place that’s why we work hard and push our limits to accomplish the target which we set.We give the best on our work, our colleagues ,our customers and everyone whom we connected professionally, because of this we take all the load on our shoulders.

After a day of stress and pressure at the office, most of us arrive home ,tired and frustrated. We don’t have energy to spend time with our loved ones. We have nothing left for the people we love most. We wearily walk to room and order them to leave us alone until we regain our energy.

Change the mindset,after step out your office. Don’t focus on how tired you are or how much work you have done.

You need to change your thoughts, take out two minutes & take a deep breath. Use this time to relax and focus on yourself,what you want to do next ,either you just want to sit alone quietly with your tired mind or you just want to make yourself more creative because you already know how important your family is for you .

Family is part of you and you should have the right to make yourself happy .you can do so many fun things if you simply change your thought process. Both are important family and your work.

We should try to do our best for both not only one.thats why nowadays most of organizations and peoples talk about “work life balance”. Some of the organization started giving work life flexibility. Alright! Take two minutes to regain your energy before you walk through the front door of your home which will help you to become a person which your family wants you to be. Most important you become a person you too want to be.

Forgive yourself

We are human being and human being make mistakes ,it’s normal as long as you don’t keep making same mistakes again and again.Accept them and learn from your mistakes and move on .keep moving because those mistakes are essential for our growth and progress.

it is not necessarily to keep blaming on yourself for your past mistakes. I m sure it might not be that easy but you have to try because until you not forgive yourself ,you’ll trap in that situation forever .If you want to do a fresh start first you should stop blaming and forgive yourself.

you don’t be so hard on yourself.If you’ll think ,you’ll realize that your past might have filled with so many mistakes but you’ll realize that you learned a lot from your mistakes.you made mistakes that’s by you became a better person in each area of your life(professional and personal relationships).

no matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress,you are still way ahead of everyone who is not trying ..Always Remember You are not alone ,Everyone makes mistakes ,things don’t happen for no reason they happen to teach you something .

Learn to enjoy your own company.

Learn to enjoy your own company :-

What Do you think, doing things alone is boring and bad because you think that you can’t do it alone.have you ever had the situation when you won the free ticket for movie or free coupons for lunch or dinner at some fancy restaurant and you have the opportunity to attend but you had missed it because you didn’t find someone to go with you

And have you ever wish that there was someone coming with you because You feel really bad and also feel fear but this is the feeling which you feel only first time when you go out.

I m damn sure once you come out your comfort zone that feeling will end That situation will change your mindset to focusing on the excitement and the gift of the amazing opportunity , it didn’t matter that You was going alone. You will realize that You are used to doing things alone and it is not that horrible that you thought in the past .You will realize that going alone is an opportunity to stretch yourself out of your comfort zone.

Doing things alone can not scary. Once You embraced that going alone was not a negative, You were able to thoroughly enjoy yourself and be in the moment. doing things by yourself is a art .The first step is changing how you feel or think about the situation. Instead of thinking oh my god it’s only me , even though we are social human being, we don’t have to do everything with people we know.

Spend time with yourself doing things you love does not require another person.yes of course some experiences are more fun when you are sharing the moment with someone you enjoy being around, but many things are as memorable when you are alone.

It’s my experience,Next time you have to go alone and be confident. Don’t decide not to go because there is no one going with you. Don’t focus on negative thoughts,take the chance to experience something by yourself for a change and personal growth.life is too short to wait for someone to go with your life journey ,you must enjoy the life journey whether you are with someone or being alone.

“learn to be alone and to like it.there is nothing more freeing and empowering than learning to like your own company “

Can little things change your mood?

One rainy day

A beautiful rainy day ….it’s pretty cool. Yesterday evening at 6 o’ clock ,I opened the door of my house and stepped out. Wow word automatically came out from my mouth ,it’s stunning …..cloud was spreaded all over the sky and when cold breeze touched me, I felt very relaxed and peaceful .

I couldn’t wait to see what will come next. Every plan had postponed that we made previously before I opened the door and at that time I had just want to go outside with my motorbike. I made my mind and stepped inside ,changed my cloth and took motorbike key than my most beautiful amazing evening began.

I can’t even tell you in my words how beautiful it was ,cloud was running with me and wind was running as fast as my bike speed . I stopped my bike in front of the lake and watched the amazing beautiful view. My hand became cold, cloud became more dark, it looked like rain about to start in any moment but I didn’t want to go back.

finally rain started and I enjoyed a lot because I like to get wet in the rain than I went to chay tapri and enjoyed hot chay in cold rainy day .i spent a great evening in the rain. Little things can suddenly change your mood .

Regret

Why ………regret?

If you know, you have only limited period of time what will you do? Most people don’t understand what life is all about until just before they die. You would definitely felt this feeling when you saw someone at death bed.mostly they regret but that time they can’t do anything because they don’t have much time.why is this happen?

While we are young ,we spend our days keeping up with social expectations.we are so busy to catch up life’s big pleasures because of this we miss little ones.

The whole life we run to catch materialistic things ,big success, big house ,all big we don’t want any less.we live in the time where we mostly have big house ,lot of money to spend but we don’t have certain number of peoples ,friends, relatives to spend time with you in your big house.we have everything but have less happiness.

We have to understand life is not a race so that we leave behind others and we go ahead .you are meant to have an amazing life .live your life fully.Live your life in such a way so that you would never regret .you must accomplish all the things you would love to accomplish.

if you want to travel ,want to learn dance, want to be musician then go ahead ,what are you waiting for.start doing things whatever you want and love to do.

Of course there will be challenges in your life but it’s okay because they help you to grow but you should know how to overcome problems and challenges .you must be happy at the end because you have an amazing life for a certain period of time.

Types of stress।

today ,I ‘m gonna talk about type of stress and importance of stress in our life.In the previous post ,we discussed about stress and and how to relieve stress but think about it , Is it possible ,can you remove or eliminate stress or stress inducing factor from your life .you have to understand, what the stress is .stress is our part of life ,we can’t eliminate it entirely. Stress is something that we all have in our lives. It can be both positive and negative.

We all need a little positive stress so that we are motivated to achieve our goals and to survive in the world. Small amount of positive stress will motivate you and will pressurise you to increase your strength and help to come out from your comfort zone. Because within your comfort zone you can’t grow ,if you don’t come out from your comfort zone ,you will be remain at the same position in your entire life. 

However when we allow stress to build up, it can have a negative effect on our lives both physically and mentally. To manage our stress, it is important to develop some skills which help us to manage our stress ,which already discussed in previous post (how to relieve stress) . This can be different for all of us.

We all have our good or bad experiences and memories .we all have the ability to remember experiences we have had. Bad experiences and bad memories that cause us stress. However if managed correctly, stress can not only help us to survive but also a healthy amount of stress can help us to improve yourself . 

Stress is part of our modern day life, and it pops up in all areas of our lives. We cannot eliminate stress, but we can learn different ways to recognise stress and how to better cope with it.Stress is caused by things that happen in our lives like first day of school or collage, first job interview etc.

Stress can be both a positive and negative experience and we all experience it in different ways. Stress is actually good for us as it helps us develop and become more strong . If we do not experience stress or are not allowed to experience failure sometimes in our lives, we may not be able to understand how to fight with another big stress which can come in our life in future .stop focusing how stressed you are and remember how blessed you are. Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.

stress

“It’s not the load that breaks you down .it’s the way you carry it”

-Lou holtz

Why……..relationships?

Today I’m gonna talk about relationship.

Why we need someone in our life or How important it is in our life ,why relationships are so important to us ,this thought comes in our mind very frequently. Ultimately, the quality of a person’s relationships dictates the quality of their life. Good relationships aren’t just happier and nicer. When we know how to heal relationships and keep them strong, they make us strong and confident .

All these thoughts about how love makes us stronger aren’t just thoughts, it’s a very important healer to us.

In happy relationships, partners try to make happy each other and understand each other’s perspectives instead of constantly trying to be right and fighting for being right .

If you can’t help yourself from getting mad, take a break go to the park , watch funny movie ,read a book, dance, play or talk to a friend or do anything to get off a destructive path. Keep positive views of your partner.

No relationship is perfect, moreover our brain is well built to remember the bad or negative things or bad memories that were said . In this situation I believe you need to focus on all positive sentiments and keep your good memories in mind. However if you can overlook those things and just focus on what is important, it is good for you ,good for the mind and good for the relationship.

As we all know how important relationship is for everyone.we can’t easily let it go.

How to relieve stress

Stress management

Today ,I’m gonna discuss about stress management or how to relieve stress .

Yesterday we had discussed about stress (how stress affects your life).

Here are some simple ways to relieve stress and anxiety.

1. Maintain your daily routine :-

It is the best way to reduce your stress by planning your day properly. Each morning is a beginning of your day .if we plan our day from the beginning than there is no need to worry about entire day.Exercise is one of the most important things you can do to reduce stress.

It would might be difficult to start but once you start ,you will feel the difference. putting physical stress on your body through exercise can relieve mental stress.

The benefits are strongest when you exercise regularly. People who exercise regularly are less likely to experience anxiety than those who don’t exercise .

Here is a few reasons behind this

• Exercise can also improve your sleep quality, which can be negatively affected by stress and anxiety.

• When you exercise regularly, you may feel more confident in your body, which in turn promotes mental wellbeing.

• You can find an exercise activity you enjoy, such as walking, dancing, rock climbing or yoga.

• Walking on the green grass barefoot in your garden can reduce your mild headache and also reduce your stress.

Regular exercise can help lower stress and anxiety.

2. Light a Candle:-

Using essential oils or burning a scented candle may help reduce your feelings of stress and anxiety.Some scents are especially soothing. Here are some of the most calming scents:

• Lavender

• Rose

• Sandalwood

• Jasmeen

• Mongra

Using scents to treat your mood is called aromatherapy. Several studies show that aromatherapy can decrease anxiety and improve sleep.Aromatherapy can help lower anxiety and stress. Light a candle or use essential oils to benefit from calming scents.

3.Decrease daily caffeine intake:-

Caffeine is a stimulant found in coffee, tea, chocolate and energy drinks. High doses can increase anxiety .People have different thresholds for how much caffeine they can tolerate.If you notice that caffeine makes you anxious, consider cutting back.

High quantities of caffeine can increase stress and anxiety. However, people’s sensitivity to caffeine can vary .

4.Write A journal:-

One way to handle stress is to write things down on your daily journal.this is the very effective formula .things ,thoughts which you can’t share with anyone those thoughts you can write in your journal otherwise they increase your stress. After that you will really feel relaxed and light .you don’t have to take so much weight of negative thoughts. Gratitude may help relieve stress and anxiety by focusing your thoughts on what’s positive in your life.Keeping a journal can help relieve stress and anxiety, especially if you focus on the positive.

5 .Spend Time With Your crazy funny friends and supportiveFamily:-

support from your Dear friends and loving ,caring family can help you get through stressful times .Being part of a friend network gives you a sense of belonging and self-worth, which can help you in tough times .Keep in mind that both men and women benefit from friendship.men and women with the fewest social connections were more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety .

Having strong social ties may help you get through stressful times and lower your risk of anxiety.so start making new friends and stay connected. Always keep in your mind, whenever you want support they always there for you.

6 .smile andLaugh:-

Smile laugh is a very good medicine for stress management .you instantly feel light and relaxed. It’s hard to feel anxious when you’re laughing. It’s good for your health .

In the long term, laughter can also help improve your immune system and mood.Try watching a funny TV show like Kapil Sharma .bhabiji ghar pe hain , laughter shows or hanging out with friends who make you laugh.Find the humor in everyday life, spend time with funny friends or watch a comedy show to help relieve stress.

7 . Hug ,kiss, cuddle:-

Cuddling, kissing, hugging can all help relieve stress.Positive physical contact can help lower blood pressure and heart rate, both of which are physical symptoms of stress.Positive touch from cuddling, hugging, kissing may help reduce stress.

8 . Listen to music daily:-

Listening to music can have a very relaxing effect on the body.Slow instrumental music can induce the relaxation.Some types of classical, and Indian music can be particularly soothing.Nature sounds can also be very calming.Listening to music you like can be a good way to relieve stress.

9 . Deep Breathing:-

Breathing exercises can reduce your stress ,calm your mood ,increase your concentration, increase glow on your face .There are several types of deep breathing exercises, including diaphragmatic breathing, abdominal breathing, belly breathing .

The goal of deep breathing is to focus your awareness on your breath, making it slower and deeper. When you breathe in deeply through your nose, your lungs fully expand and your belly rises.This helps slow your heart rate, allowing you to feel more peaceful.

10 .connect with nature :-

Spend time in nature may help reduce stress and improve your mood .you will never go wrong by spending time enjoying nature.my favourite time of year is autumn.the leaves on the tree reflect the brilliant colours of the season .it is the perfect time for long walks. Away from the noise of the city.i also love rainy season .rain always feel me alive ,fresh ,very peaceful.

11 .Learn to Say No:-

Take control over the parts of your life that you can change and are causing you stress.One way to do this may be to say no more often.This is especially true if you find yourself taking on more than you can handle, many responsibilities can leave you feeling overwhelmed.

Being selective about what you take on and saying no to things that will unnecessarily add to your load can reduce your stress levels.Try not to take on more than you can handle. Saying no is one way to control your stress.

12. See your day as your life:-

If you change you perspective to see the world or your life or anything else’s than your stress will automatically decrease .As you live your days ,so you live your life. It is easy to get to cought up in the trap of thinking that this day does not matter much given all the days that lie ahead of you .

But a great life is nothing more than a series of great days .think about it ,if you know that you have limited amount of time than how you react, how you feel ,your perspective to see the things will change positively.and your problems which induce your stress will looks small or nothing to you.

How stress affects your life

Today, I am gonna discuss about stress ,how it affect our life .Stress relates to anyone and everyone no matter the situation you will have some sort of stress whether it goes or bad. “Stress is your body’s response to changes in your life. Because life involves constant changes like changing locations from home to work each morning ,some annoying thoughts which comes up in your mind ,hurt by someone which you love most ,related to job workplace, in your marriage etc.

If you have too much stress it can affect your physical and mental health in bad ways. Stress can cause headaches, high blood pressure, heart problems, skin conditions, asthma, arthritis depression, and anxiety. Emotional symptoms of stress include crying, irritability, And stress can also show up as negative behaviors .

If stress is high which you can’t control than you Should visit the doctor and because of it, seventy-five percent to ninety percent of all doctor visits are caused by stress-related ailments and complaints. Though stress is apart of normal everyday life it can do horrible things to your self-esteem and other aspects of life in general. Ways to avoid stress work ahead of schedule and don’t wait till last second to do work. By working ahead of schedule and not waiting till last minute you eliminate stress a lot quicker and the stress does not build up. When you let stress build up you are basically letting stress control your life and when you let that happen you start to shut down with depression and anxietyu need to find a way that suits you to relieve stress as long as it is not harmful to your body like drugs and alcohol which only temporarily relieve stress. When people stress lots of times they look for substances and that is why smoking cigarettes are so common from a young age. Young people stress and they find smoking calms them the first time so they continue to try to get that original stress relief they got from the first cigarette until it turns into an addiction which is never good. Another way to manage stress is never planning overlapping events because you rush for everything and you stress because you are late. If caring about what others think of you stresses you out then you should not care what you should care about is what you think of yourself and yourself only not what other make you think of yourself.

Again stress is a very common factor in everyone’s life that affects everyone in different ways . you may think your stress only affect your health they can affect everyone around your health too. make sure you do not hurt anyone around you .and try to reduce your stress because it will never take you at the right path .you should found a way to escape from your stress .in next post We will discuss about how to overcome from your stress .

How to be happy

Golden rules of happiness:

Stop Blaming :

You want to be happy than why are you blaming others.if you think, you are a strong person than why not take all the responsibility.would you really want to live in a place where everyone acted ,thought, do as you want and as you do ? I m sure ,first thought which would come in your mind is that you really want it ,you said this is it which you need most.but when you think deeply and consciously,I’m sure you will never ever want or think like this .you don’t want that place where everyone think same ,do same, act same.because you know it .it would be a pretty boring place ,where everyone is same.

Everyone has a unique nature, qualities, habits, unique thoughts.this uniqueness make us different from others.what makes us unique or great are not the things that we have common or same but the differences make us unique.otherwise everyone will became president if not than everyone will became peon.its so funny .thats why we should stop blaming and criticising others.

0So rather than criticising or blaming others why not we begin to respect differences.blame is one sided .it not about understanding what happened but about making the other responsible. Each and every time of our life we need someone to blame ,someone to thank .someone to criticise.we cants accept that everything that happens to us is our own doing.when problems occur, people don’t like to blame themselves because blaming others is easier.but you have to accept and learn to take responsibility yourself .so rather than blaming and criticising why not we begin to respect others uniqueness.

It’s not very weird or sad thing that you blame others but you make sure you never hurt others .but if unfortunately you did this than you should accept it.and try to fix it .train your mind to see the good in others and everything.because we choose happiness .

If you’ve been blaming your friend or your partner , be sure to apologize and express your love to them .it will bring the two of you closer.

Just one thought…

Golden rules of happiness:

First accept the truth
We can’t make each other happy, You make yourself happy. And I make myself happy if you thought we make each other happy then your happiness is Time dependent and short term.as Time passed your happiness fades away if it depends on others.

We think degree, job, spouse, children, friends will make us happy. Even God can’t make you happy.
We have temporary mind diversions to divert attention from emotional pain. It is like drugs.

Solution: Just be aware of thoughts
Just one Thought Away
Being natural doing what you like makes you happy. It requires least effort. Being natural is peace, love, happiness. But we must be aware of these natural qualities.

It doesn’t take years to change mindset. Just one thought of awareness. awareness of thoughts ,awareness of changes ,awareness of how u feel ,just focus on yourself not on others .nowdays we all focus on others what they think ,what they do,what they think about me.you don’t have to worry what they think about you ,you have to think about yourself .There are so many issues we face every day. It is not the issues but the negative reaction it creates within us that disturbs us. If we just accept the changes then we are happy.

Creating new Power or habits with ‘ awareness and will power’. With this you become powerful.
Everyone has the same will power. It depends on how much we use it. Same with every good human quality. The tragedy is that we are not even aware of our original qualities. It is like we have fortune we don’t have to depend for happiness from others. First, we must know that we have the power, then we must make efforts to open it. It is in the mind, we have the key. Only we can open. Others can only guide.

Balance of Thoughts: Just one positive thought is not sufficient and many negative thoughts won’t work. Consistent positive thoughts are required. Not just words, thoughts must be positive.you have to focus constantly on your thoughts.if you succeed to increase your positive thoughts everyday bases and decrease your negative thoughts everyday you start feeling little happy, positive ,energetic and this’ll increase everyday.

You can do it.speak loudly and proudly constantly I have faith in myself ,every day before going to sleep and at the moment t Tell yourself and others repeatedly. I can be happy. I have faith in myself.

to be continued ……………………………….

How to be happy

Everything Happens Here(In the Mind):

Dependency on others creates fear. Mind is fickle. The only way to control it is by engaging in good acts that are beneficial to all. Peaceful mind works slowly, cautiously. When we are worried, angry, thoughts are very fast.

We can never switch off mind, not even in sleep. Our negative and waste thoughts are due to influences:

1. Past experiences Negative information leads to negative thoughts.

The situation is a trigger. The information is filled inside.

It is important to be positive in the morning and just before sleep. 10 minutes of good reading before sleep is very beneficial. Then review the events of the day. Don’t sleep with unresolved issues. Review how you responded and see if it could have been better.

The purpose of life is the expansion of happiness.happiness is the goal of our life.most people think that happiness comes from becoming successful and having good relationships.however this is a mistake success ,relationship,health,wealth are result of happiness not the reason of happiness.When we are happy ,we are more likely to make choices that leads to all theses things .